“God loves you and has chosen you as his own special people.
So be gentle, kind, humble, meek, and patient.”
So, it’s Valentine’s Day…again. I have long since moved past struggling with this holiday as a single person. I don’t need a boyfriend or husband to be happy and feel loved during this day. I’ll happily dive into some chocolates and curl up for a great movie tonight once my daughter is tucked in bed. I don’t mind.
Honestly, that’s not always been the case. There have been years where I’ve really struggled with being single today. I can honestly say that despite my desire for marriage and a husband to go through this life with, I’m good with being single while I am. It’s giving me more time to discover my passions in life and live for God and I’m able to devote more of me to my daughter. Life is good! I am loved! I don’t need a holiday to tell me whether someone else loves me or not. I know I’m loved!
Long before we first loved anything, knew how to love, or even knew what the word ‘love’ meant, we were loved. Before we loved ourselves, that first toy, our parents, we were loved so much, a life was sacrificed for us. That love has taught us so much and it is often forgotten or excluded for convenience. He First Loved Us!
Now, I’ll say again, I’m single. I’ve never been married, but I have been in long-term relationships and I’ve seen many marriages (and the good and bad that go along with them). Sometimes people forget how to love. Or maybe they’ve been with that person so long that they don’t always remember to show their love anymore. I see too many marriages where there isn’t that love there anymore.
Now I know, passion and intensity fades over time. But that’s when you truly develop a long-lasting love. Love isn’t passion. It’s so much more than that. It’s a desire to do for that person, care for that person, give to that person, spend time with that person.
God gives us instructions for how we should live our lives. He gives us these so that we can have the best life possible. So, how do you love God’s way? Simple.
Here are 10 ways from the Bible.
♦ Listen without interrupting.
♦ Speak without accusing.
♦ Give without sparing.
♦ Pray without ceasing.
♦ Answer without arguing.
♦ Share without pretending.
♦ Enjoy without compliant.
♦ Trust without wavering.
♦ Forgive without punishing.
♦ Promise without forgetting.
*Note: I found this list somewhere online a while back, but cannot find the source.
If you know where it is located, please let me know.
This morning started out a little more difficult than I was hoping, due to the simple fact that I have a naughty kitty at the moment. Last night, I decided that with the tables set, butter dishes and bread (which she loves to chew on) sitting out on the tables, that it’d be wise for me to restrict her movements overnight. You know – to prevent what I could foresee as a problem this morning that I didn’t want to deal with. I had decided my room was the best choice so I can get up if need be, plus my Dominic is a cuddle bug and sleeps with me each night and I would miss him if he wasn’t curled up, purring.
I was well prepared, I moved the food and water into our bedroom and coaxed the cats to use the litter box just before bed (by cleaning it). Does that frustrate anyone else? The moment it is clean, they are hopping in the mess it back up. Anyway, we settled in and it was great for a few hours when Aryanna was up for a restroom break (must have been that chocolate milk before bed). I had to wrangle the cats back in. Then a couple hours later Aryanna was up again, this time, unbeknown to me. I was sound asleep. Didn’t hear a thing until I heard a little scratching at the door to get IN the bedroom. Once I realized what was going on, I jumped up, noting it was 3:23 AM and headed to the kitchen debating on whether I should just turn on the coffee while there. What I found would be the deciding factor.
I was pleasantly surprised to see nothing amiss. No butter with lick marks, no bread on the floor, no wrinkled tablecloths! I was a bit surprised actually so I decided to try my luck back in bed. I couldn’t doze off right away so I grabbed my Nook and started reading, with a cat curled up between. I read for an hour before dozing off before waking quickly this morning at 5:45.
I guess I’ll get to see the sunrise and get a little more time with God this Thanksgiving morning.
Whatever your day is scheduled to have, please make sure to remember that Thanksgiving is a day to be thankful, a day to remember, appreciate, and celebrate. I know we all have our traditions of eating way too much, watching football, hunting, the ‘friendly’ family banter, etc. Just don’t forget why we chose to continue to choose to gather with that family and those friends. Or why you miss them when you are unable to join them.
Please remember as you gather that many are not as fortunate as you. If you are able to join in the celebration of eating too much, rushing off to get those special deals at the store, and watching that all too important NFC East football game (GO PACK!!), you are extraordinarily blessed! Many are hungry or cannot afford that extra big meal, many do not have family to gather with. Count your blessings! Each person around your table is a blessing. Each bite you take. Each hour you have available to hunt.