By choosing a loving environment without added peer pressure and comparisons, I can see my daughter thriving and willing to try a little more. While we are still working on regaining that joyful spirit that she lost last year, we are getting there. I’m seeing more smiles, hearing giggles and can see her eyes light up more often. (There is nothing like seeing that sparkle of joy in your child’s eyes.) As with anything, it’s taking time, but we’re making progress. Little bit by little bit. Read more about our struggles here.
Are you surprised by these stats?
I’m not! Nope! Not one bit!
What do you think about them?
Truth be told, last year while she was in 1st grade, she came home most nights upset in some manner and often in tears. It was a very difficult year. Whether it was because someone was picking on her, the teacher went too fast on a new topic or she was bored in class, or for a million other reasons. She got in trouble once because she was helping a boy in her class. He didn’t understand so she was teaching him by giving him the answers.
I know my daughter is highly sensitive. She is very much like me that way. We take things to heart and often overanalyze, overthink, and can struggle when offered too many choices or are pressured. She was extremely advanced in reading – in fact, she was tested in 1st grade to be reading at between a 4th and 5th grade level. That explains so much of the boredom, but there were times when she struggled to get the concept in math and that brought on a great deal of frustration. She is very hard on herself. She expects perfection and if she’s concerned that she cannot reach it, she doesn’t even want to try. She’ll quit before she even starts.
It didn’t matter how great her teacher was. And both in Kindergarten and 1st grade were awesome! We were getting to the point where she hated school, she didn’t want to go, she didn’t want to learn, and she was no longer her happy, joyous self. She was becoming more and more stressed, emotional outbursts were becoming more frequent, and our family was stretching thin. I WAS DONE! With all that we went through during that school year, I decided it was time for drastic changes. It was time to try something completely different. I would not send her back to a public school this year! And it was the best decision I could have made for her.
Now don’t get me wrong, its not all sunshine and games. We definitely have our struggles. There are some days that are harder than others, but we have found a good routine and are progressing very nicely. In fact the hardest subject, math, has really come along. We slowed down, focused on the basics, and found different ways to find the solutions. Once the basics clicked for her – she has sped along at an amazing rate. It’s quite rewarding to see how simply showing different methods can make something that was once nearly impossible for her, something that she now understands. Would she have gotten that in a public school? Maybe. But it’s hard for teachers to give one-on-one direction in a classroom with nearly 30 students. When considering all her struggles – it wasn’t worth chancing.
Are you wondering if I made the right decision?
I know it may not be best for all families, but it definitely is for ours.
Check out these stats on how homeschoolers compare.
You may just learn something new yourself.